Self-Esteem and Body Image

“57% of all girls have a mother who criticizes her own looks.” Dove Campaign for Real Beauty – Dove Self-Esteem Website

We model behavior, whether we know it or not. What are we teaching our impressionable children?

Mary Pipher made it clear in the 1990s in her book, Reviving Ophelia, we live in a girl-poisoning culture, especially in the area of nurturing a healthy body image. We are all aghast when we hear the statistics of the number of teens with eating disorders. We wonder why this can be happening.

Yet as parents, we often don’t make the connection between our self-deprecation and the imprint those remarks may leave on our kids. Jokes about our disgusting muffin tops hanging over the waist of our jeans, chants of our perennial plans to lose five or ten pounds teach our kids that we are not OK with ourselves the way we are. We have sold our inner peace to society’s image of a photoshopped cover girl. [Read more…]

Introduction to my Blog

You are not alone. You make a difference. These are just a couple of messages that become clear by following this blog.

I’m Janet Larson Melugin. Welcome to my blog. My hope is that whenever you visit this site, you will feel like you just came home. Pretenses are dropped as we share riveting actual diary entries (names can be changed) that deal with real issues. Inspirational quotes surrounding the topics will be shared. I invite comments and emails from subject matter experts to provide guidance, and subscribers to offer insights. The goal is to look at the raw experiences – via the diary entries – and learn a new and healthier way to face them. Together, we’ll create a village to support and encourage families and teens as they face issues that affect their self-image, self-confidence and self-esteem.

While the topics that surface in this forum are relevant to our entire society, for now, I’m focusing on diary or journal (same thing) entries that face teens and their families. Of course, this includes families with young children, because we know that if parents don’t have a respectful and trusting relationship with their children as they approach their teen years, it’s a mountain climbing battle instead of an uphill battle at that point.

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